Dating rules 2
A better rule: If you've met a guy at a party and are having a great chat, there's no reason you can't say something like, "I'd love to keep this conversation going. " To summon the courage, remember two things: One, a guy who might be scared off by your "forwardness" isn't worth your time anyway.
And two, "men are as afraid of rejection as you are," says Dr. "A guy who's interested will be relieved that the burden's not on him this time." Photo: i Stockphoto3.
While that’s a nice enough plot for a Tom Hanks/Meg Ryan film, reality doesn’t work like that.
If you sit around in anticipation of love, all you’ll get is a long wait.
But conversely, believing you should have sex after a specific number of dates can feel artificial, not to mention scary in some cases.
Read on for eight dating rules ripe for the breaking.
On the other hand, if you've been waiting and he's not quite there yet, it may be time to move on, since the two of you aren't quite in sync.
The point is that rules don't help you figure out the right time to have sex––your own feelings and instincts do, says Dr. Photo: i Stockphoto This one, says Wendy Lyon, Ph D, psychologist and relationship coach, "is an old-fashioned rule that says he should be in charge and be the 'hunter.'" The idea is that if a woman takes the initiative, the man won't feel, well, manly.
Indeed, if you’re serious about finding a partner, it’s ok – and even necessary – to work at that goal.
It doesn’t make the love you find any less worthy or any less real.